Eighth Journal Entry — Building Our Home in Mexico
April 1, 2015
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The foundation has been poured and now Marco our builder is laying the brick for the house. It’s a time-consuming process of laying one brick at a time. He’s careful to use just the right amount of mortar, seating the brick firmly in the mortar, making sure the brick is in line with the others with the help of a guide string and clearing away the excess mortar; all of this with each brick laid. In the additional photo you can see the stack of brick that has yet to be laid.
Eventually the brick will all be in place and the walls of our new home will be complete, and it will have been done one brick at a time. Life is a lot like a brick wall; life is lived one moment at a time, one event at a time, one conversation at a time, one decision at a time, and one day at a time. If our builder Marco decided to get sloppy with laying brick, even with just a few of them, it would ruin the house. So it is with life. If we get sloppy with the seemingly small details of life they will quickly mess up our life in general.
Over the years I have counseled many couples whose marriage is in trouble. In every case it wasn’t one big event that brought the marriage to a crisis (not even an affair), but a slow and almost imperceptible drift from treating each other the way a husband and wife should treat each other on a day-to-day basis. Even if there was an affair it likely wouldn’t have happened if the marriage had been healthy.
Students who pull an “all nighter” to try and get a good grade on a test when they haven’t been exhibiting good student habits all semester will likely not do well in the exam. You can’t quickly learn what can only be slowly learned.
Habits can be good or bad. Both good and bad habits are the same, however, in that they are established over a period of time by making the same decision, thinking the same thought, or acting in the same way over and over again.
Yes, life is a lot like building a wall with bricks. The question for each of us is, then, what are we going to do with the next brick?